WHY ABUSE HER?

MODEL: KIMELEE PAUL

The unheard cries of abuse need to shatter every ear. Women have always been subjected to various types of abuse because we are considered as the weaker sex. "He hits you because he loves you." Or "She deserved that lash!" Or "Why she provoked the man?" are considered as being a part of the problem. These words justify and encourage men to prey on women. No woman deserves a lash, a cuff or a kick. No woman deserves to be dragged by her hair and told how much of a whore she seems to be. No woman deserves to be screamed at and left neglected by her mate. No woman! No woman! No! Woman! Don't cry!

We need to build each other up, be our sister's keeper and move away from abuse. It is quite unfortunate that abuse against women not only comes from men, but from women as well. When you sit in your groups and criticise her clothes and her hairstyle because it does not fit into your mold. You scorn her and body shame her because you feel threatened, YOU, my dear lady have now become part of the problem and not part of the solution.

But, I know the burning question on your minds? How do I get out of this? Or, how do I recover from this? The answer is simple. First things first, find your inner potential by doing something you like, something that makes you happy. Then, realise that the relationship you are in is not healthy for you. Move out of the relationship, either physically or emotionally. If your life is threatened, call the police, call a hotline, call a friend, just call out for help!

When you have moved on, find your inner peace through religion, meditation, music, yoga, etc. The good thing is, you have already found something you like and that will occupy your time. Healing does not come automatically, but it takes time. During the healing process, try not to reflect on or rehash your bad memories because that keeps you trapped in that hurt. Also, try not to bring past insecurities and mistrust into any new relationships you will make in the future. Remember! Our freedom depends on us! So, be bold and be strong! Women, we can do it!